Boundaries are very important for our well-being, and they set an example to those close to us about what we will and won’t accept.
It is especially important if you are someone that wears their heart on their sleeve and always wants to help others, because by being a constant ‘people pleaser’ this can cause some people to ‘take’ too much of your energy, and in some instances to over use you to the point when you become a ’door mat’ to their constant asking you for favours, support, advice and help.
There’s nothing wrong with being a person who loves to help people, but boundaries are important to enable you to look after your energy and well-being so you don’t become drained and lack energy for yourself, which can lead to ‘burn out’. Being a people pleaser can come from low self-worth, because as you offer all your time to those close to you it can make you feel worthy, wanted and needed, but by giving too much they expect more and take you for granted expecting you to always be at their beck and call.
Setting boundaries can be as simple as learning to say ‘no’ sometimes and not always being available for friends and family when they expect you to be. It can take time to start to implement saying ‘no’ sometimes into your life, and can feel uncomfortable at first, but as you set this new boundary those that have always relied on you constantly will start to learn to have more respect and worth for you, and won’t take you for granted. They will appreciate the support a lot more when it is not so open and forthcoming.
Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious.
Love and blessings,