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Welcome to Soul Mirrors

Introduction to Soul Mirrors

Hello, and thank you for visiting my blog.

I decided to start this blog to help those of you that come across challenges within your personal relationships, be that with your partner, family, friends, co-workers, employers, other authority figures and the one with self. I will also be writing about positive uplifting experiences brought forward from ‘connections’ and mirror experiences, and how they can actually be a great blessing to your inner healing and transformation.

I have been helping people from all walks of life across the globe for over 25 years, specialising in readings, spiritual life coaching, soul portraits and healings, and have been helping people online via my website and Facebook page through articles about everyday life experiences, and challenges and with the spiritual ascension awakening.

This year 2018 the year of the woman I feel is a good time to ‘birth’ my idea of helping people with relationship issues, including the one with self, which are played out through mirroring and triggers from those we come across in our life, that are brought forward for us unintentionally from us by what we reflect out into our world via moods, emotions, and how we act and react to outside stimuli, especially from those we interact with, which can be from those close to us, or even strangers who cross our path, which are all brought to us to highlight what needs addressing and healing within.

I will be writing about all forms of mirroring, addressing subjects such as low self worth, lack of self love, boundaries, self worth, respect, issues with neediness, people pleasing and much more.

Insight and guidance will be coming from my own experiences, and what I have learnt about myself ,and others along my life journey so far. This blog will also serve as my diary where I will be sharing personal experiences along this new journey with you all, as I take my writing into a new direction to connect with more people.

Life is a continuous cycle of what I call, ‘peeling the onion’, which is about peeling away layers upon layers of life conditioning, upbringing conditioning, relationship conditioning and many other conditions that can hold us in a repetitive loop of attracting same experiences until we see and understand the learning lessons that leads to healing and transformation. We are ‘peeling the onion to reveal our true authentic beautiful self so we can stand in our sovereignty and know our worth

You are welcome to email me with questions, and suggestions for articles. All emails will be held in strictest of confidence unless you would like me to share with soul mirror readers.

Love and blessings,

Wendy x

 

 

Power and Control struggles within Relationships

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The dynamics in relationships can cause power struggles, and control issues to surface. Sometimes this is from one partner, or it can come from both partners as they try to gain power and dominance over the other within the relationship.

This usually happens when the lack of accepting the other as an equal can arise, or just for dominance and control within the relationship. These power struggles tend to happen when there is inner issues that need addressing such as lack of confidence, low self-esteem, not feeling good enough, lack of self-worth and self-love, which can play out as trying to gain control over the partner through narcistic qualities such as manipulation, control and even bullying tactics that can cause the partner receiving it to become powerless as the perpetrator gains control and power by taking their partners energy in order to make themselves feel better.

When the partner receiving this treatment doesn’t understand what is happening, and why, and tries to amend their partners behaviour this can then cause themselves to try to gain power and control within the relationship by trying to change their partners ways, which can cause further power struggles to arise and even arguments, or they become totally deflated and begin to feel unworthy, not loved, not appreciated, respected or loved, which gives the partner taking the power to feel even more empowered.

How can the power and control issues be stopped?

These patterns can be broken when both partners become responsible for their actions and reactions, and embrace their own inner power for self-empowerment and not to use it to control and manipulate their partner. Balance is key, and can take a long time to rectify when power and control issues are within the relationship. Patience, acceptance and open communication are key to resolve these challenges, but can only happen when one or both partners can see the power struggles and take responsibility to start to address their inner issues that cause these power and control issues, and change their behaviour.

Power is about dominance over another or an area of their life they wish to feel in control of. When they learn to let go of trying to control others, and situations in their life, this will at first make them feel like they are losing total control of themselves, and their life, and can cause them to lash out, and become angry at first. Over time, and when they take responsibility for their ways, and can see that power doesn’t and isn’t about controlling their outside life, but is about controlling their inner self and not to inflict domineering ways on to those close to them then they can start to address their inner issues that have been causing their power and control issues over others and their life, and take necessary changes to heal and change their behaviour. A big learning lesson is acceptance.

This acceptance is also an important point for the one receiving the domineering ways of their partner, because they have a choice to either accept and tolerate things as they are, or they don’t. You can’t change your partner, if they have these power and controlling tendencies it is up to them to begin to address their issues so they can change their ways, not you. Yes you can help them to see what they are doing is wrong and damaging to you, themselves and the relationship, but they will only start to listen when they can see this for themselves and want to change for themselves.

If you can see they are making changes, and they stop trying to control everything, and you, then there is a chance the relationship can heal, change and balance, but if not, then you have to think about your self-worth and respect, and perhaps end things. It is not easy when you love someone no matter what they do, but it is very important to look after your wellbeing and your sanity. If you are constantly put down, misunderstood, not appreciated, shouted at, and feel like you have to walk around on ‘egg shells’ and be someone you are not just to fit in with what they want, then perhaps it is time to stand up, reclaim your power, and make necessary changes for you, which may mean to end the relationship.

Listen to what your heart and mind is telling you to do. Don’t put up with what is insulting you, and making you feel ill mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Don’t fit in just to appease your partners wants and needs, or stay because you fear being on your own. If your partner really loves you they will treat you with respect, honesty, loyalty, understanding, kindness and love. They will love you for you, and if they don’t, then there will always be someone else who does.

Love and Blessings,

Wendy x

If you would like to share your experiences and how you over come these challenges please feel free to share, or if you have a question please leave a comment and I will get back to you soon x

Emotional and Mental ‘Triggers’

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Why do triggers happen?

Triggers from those close to us, and even from work colleagues, play out to teach us what needs addressing within ourselves, and when what someone has said to you triggers something within you this can bring up many feelings from anger, to not feeling appreciated, misunderstood, not loved, the list can be endless, and it all depends Continue reading “Emotional and Mental ‘Triggers’”

Ascension Relationship Struggles

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The ascension (spiritual awakening) journey can cause difficulties with your personal relationship, especially if you are more ‘awake’ than your partner, because as you become more aware you start to feel and see differently, and things you could tolerate before in your relationship become almost intolerable. You may also find you have difficulties communicating to one another, because  Continue reading “Ascension Relationship Struggles”

Runner Chaser Dynamics in Relationships

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Runner chaser relationships – why does it happen?

There are so many dynamics to relationships, and one that can cause a lot of problems and challenges is the ‘run and chase’ relationship, when one partner runs away and the other chases. This unbalance in the relationship can play out with both partners when the one running stops and begins to chase and vice a versa.

The one running usually does this when their emotions become overwhelming, and they don’t know how to handle and express their emotions to their partner. It can also  Continue reading “Runner Chaser Dynamics in Relationships”

Setting Boundaries

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Boundaries are very important for our well-being, and they set an example to those close to us about what we will and won’t accept.

It is especially important if you are someone that wears their heart on their sleeve and always wants to help others, because by being a constant ‘people pleaser’ this can cause some people to ‘take’ too much of your energy, and in some instances  Continue reading “Setting Boundaries”

Mirrors of Love – Healing Self-Love

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Personal relationships can teach us so much about self-love. When this is lacking in self it will be mirrored from those that are either unloving, unaffectionate, not caring or forth coming with showing emotions and feelings, or will come from those that are very loving and giving. Each way of mirroring the lack of self-love to you will help you to begin the healing process of Continue reading “Mirrors of Love – Healing Self-Love”